Everything that you see on social media is an illusion.
It’s the story that the person managing the profile wants you to see instead of how the story is actually unfolding.
The people who look like they are super successful and crushing it in business could be in a financial crisis.
The people who are taking that tropical vacation could have saved for years and years just to be able to have the opportunity to go.
The people who look to have the perfect family photos could be on the verge of falling apart.
The happy couple that have huge smiles in every photo together could barely be talking to each other and are simply going through the motions but inside they just want to scream.
Social media is a way of escaping from what our current circumstances are and share the highlights with friends & family.
It’s the same way when someone becomes “successful”. People only see the success and the glamour that comes with material success.
They don’t see the stress, the late nights, the time away from friends or family, the failures, the not being able to afford to eat, the walls closing in, etc.
It’s something most business owners or entrepreneurs face and yet most aren’t willing to put it out on display because we have to keep up this “illusion” of being put together.
Sometimes, life has shitty moments.
Sometimes sacrifices are made in the now to be able to enjoy the fruits of your labor in the future.
Sometimes, things get a whole lot worse before they get better.
2018 has been one of the most emotionally exhausting and yet most rewarding years that I’ve had.
Entrepreneurship is a journey. Some years are great and some are… Well, an opportunity to rise to the occasion or let the ship sink.
Earlier this year, I had one of those ‘rise or sink’ moments. It got so bad that I had to let go of my pride and ask for financial assistance to pay rent.
I don’t like asking for help in that capacity. I’m very independent and hitting that moment made me cringe.
Yet, I took it as a lesson. I took what I learned from that event, adapted my process & was able to crawl back out of that hole.
I got my business back in the black, not by comparing my life or business to others… By taking focused action.
👉 Was it stressful? You bet!
👉 Did I lose sleep? Oh yeah.
👉 Did I have breakdowns along the way? Quite a few of them, actually.
👉 Did I feel like a failure at that moment? Yes. Did others know? No.
There’s so much that people don’t see because we choose not to talk about it. We internalize it instead of using it as a message that others can learn from as well.
Am I fortunate to have had help? Absolutely. If I hadn’t had the help, it would have gotten a lot worse before it got better.
There’s not a moment that goes by where I don’t express my gratitude for the help.
I also express my gratitude for the struggle because I’m stronger for it. My relationship with that individual is stronger because of it.
At the end of the day, stop comparing your life or business to the life or business of the people you’re connected to on social media.
❌ It doesn’t serve you.
❌ It won’t move the needle forward.
You are exactly where you need to be at this moment. Whether it’s to learn or grow from or it’s something to just appreciate; this exact moment is where you’re at because of the decisions you’ve made leading up to this moment.
We all have our highs and we all have our lows. Never be ashamed of your lows.
The only difference is when you are experiencing a low moment, stop telling yourself the story of why you’re still there.
Tell your story of how you’ll work to dig your way out of the hole and get back on top.
Tell your story of how you persevered and what you learned from that experience.
Tell your story. Never compare your story. Comparison isn’t empowering.
If you want to succeed in any area of your life, it starts with the empowering story you tell yourself and you tell others.
Pick up your pen. Your next chapter is waiting to be written.
Your Business Coach,
This post was originally published on Medium (9/28/2018)