Here’s Why You Shouldn’t Pursue Your Dreams

Most people have a dream that burns inside of them. Some times people realize what they want to do at a young age and other times, it takes years and years to discover exactly what it is that you want out of life. Have you ever thought to yourself that there is more to life than your current situation?

If you have ever had that thought, then this post is definitely for you.

Maybe you were sitting in a cubicle and you see a friend’s post on social media about their success in business. Or maybe you see someone globe-trotting and you think to yourself, “they’re so lucky — they must be dating someone rich”. Or maybe you see someone starting a business and you think, “I wish I could do that — they’re so brave”.

No matter what the situation is, there comes a point in your life that you think that you should pursue a dream of yours.

Whether it’s becoming an actor, a writer, opening a restaurant, starting a business, etc. It’s going to happen. There are some people that will ignore it and realize when they’re on their death bed that they should have pursued it. Then there will be a smaller percentage of people who actually go out and take action on their dreams.

I want to have an open conversation about why you shouldn’t pursue your dreams.

  1. It’s Mentally Exhausting

What people don’t tell you is that pursuing your dreams is exhausting. Most entrepreneurs will work a full-time job during the day and pursue their dreams at night. OR they work an overnight job so they keep their days open to pursuing their endeavors. There will be many sleepless nights trying to figure it out.

There will be times when you feel like you are working all day, all night, and for weeks at a time but nothing is paying off. It doesn’t even feel like you are making progress.

You will feel lonely at times because you seclude yourself from everyone because you see posts on Instagram with the hashtags “#entrepreneur” and “#hustle”. You see videos of successful people telling you that you should be working harder and longer — otherwise you truly don’t want to be successful.

You see people younger than you that are miles and miles ahead of you and all you can feel is inadequate. Then you wonder if it’s even worth pursuing anymore.

2. Missed Moments

Another thing that people don’t tell you is all of the moments that you will miss out on. This is especially true if you move to another state and put thousands of miles between you and your family.

Because you will be staying up late, getting up early, and busting your ass all of the time… you will miss out on moments with people. You will miss family events. You will miss get-togethers with your friends. You might even miss precious moments with your significant other and potentially your children (if you have any) all for the chance to potentially achieving your dreams.

You will feel like all you are able to do is work. You might stop and go see a movie or do something with your spouse but you’ll feel guilty stepping away for a single minute because you aren’t successful yet. Why should you have fun when you have a business to build? You’ll have fun once it all starts coming together… or so that’s what you tell yourself every single day.

3. Finances Are Limited

When it comes to creating a business or pursuing your dreams, you need to allocate the majority of your finances to that. So you’ll have to create a budget and look at where to make cuts.

I live in Los Angeles and every single month, there are people that move out here to pursue their dreams in the entertainment industry. They get jobs that allow them to pursue their endeavors but make enough to fulfill their hunger. But everything else is tight and they end up in a cycle of stress because they can barely make ends meet.

Bills start piling up and you realize that you need to invest in yourself and your business. How can you even afford to make all of this happen?

There may even come a time when you have to lower your head and ask for money. I’ve been there and it was simply one of the worst experiences of my life because I am an independent person but it was between asking for help or not being able to eat for 2 weeks.

Regardless of your financial situation, there will come unexpected finances that you’ll need to spend and it’s important to be prepared for it.

4. Questioning Your Dreams

Lastly, there will come a time when you wonder if all of this is even worth it. You feel homesick from the life that you used to live because it was easier. It was easier to clock into a job and get a steady paycheck. It was easier being around friends and family that you have always been around.

You will have thoughts rush through your head that you never thought would cross your mind when you first started out.

Maybe you’re not cut out for this journey. Maybe you’re not good enough. Maybe you’re business doesn’t make any sense because no one is biting. Maybe you’re not doing enough which is why you’re successful. Maybe, just maybe, you lose yourself on this path.

Even though all of this sounds rough, what’s even worse is how you will feel never having tried. Think about it for a second. If you were to walk outside and get hit by a car so severely, that you only have the next 5 minutes to look back on the choices that you made.

Would you be happy with the life you’ve lived? Would you wish you had done more? Would you wish you had pursued your dreams?

No matter how crazy your dreams sound to others, you should 100% pursue them.

The truth is, you had this burning passion to pursue it for a reason. The only reason people stop pursuing their dreams is that they listened to enough people telling them not to pursue their dreams.

Some times, you start off on one path only to find yourself on another but you wouldn’t have found yourself on this new path without pursuing the thing that sets your soul on fire.

I started out wanting to be an actor. Then it moved into film production. But those passions died quickly because it really wasn’t what made me happy. Restaurants made me happy. People made me happy. Teaching made me happy. I just found a way to put all 3 of those together and it was all because I took a chance on myself.

It’s time to give yourself permission to pursue your dreams 100%. Make a promise to yourself that you will go all in. If you find yourself questioning whether or not it’s going to be worth it — just know that the journey is always worth it.

If you still want to pursue your dreams (or continue pursuing your dreams) after reading this article… then buckle up. It’s go time.

“The great thing in this world is not so much where you stand, as in what direction you are moving.”– Oliver Wendell Holmes

This article was originally published on Medium (7/13/2017)

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